The things you need to stop putting yourself through.
Control what you can control. For everything else, LET. IT. GO.
Many people put themselves through a jolly lot of unnecessary pain. I saw it every day in my CTC therapy practise. So many unhealthy thoughts, so many limiting beliefs, so much self imposed stress. Over time these behaviours become so ingrained that they don't even realise they're living such a life anymore... and that, sadly, negativity has become their norm.
YOU, and only you are in control of you. You are the centre of your own, amazing and wondrous universe. The thoughts you think, the words you speak, the beliefs you hold - they are all you. The thing is, they set the tone for how people treat you, and how life in general treats us.
"The words you speak become the house you live in" - Hafiz.
If you want kindness, be kind. If you want greater happiness, you have to stop doing the things that cause you pain and suffering.
With these sentiments in mind, clear your heart, your mind and your life of everything that does not serve you... RIGHT NOW. This is where I think you should start:
1. Stop believing your limitations.
There are NO limits. You can achieve ANYTHING, if you believe it. I want you to take this one moment and identify the one thing, that one very special thing that you would love to be or do. You CAN actually do it, can't you. Stop thinking so small.
2. Stop waiting for the future.
Life is the journey, not the destination. And let me tell you, you will never get there. Wherever "there" is. Because whenever you "arrive" there will be something else unfinished waiting. Stop waiting til you've lost 5 kilos, stop waiting to have enough money, stop waiting until you have kids, or the kids leave home, stop waiting til you find a man, or until Friday night, or for someone to bring you flowers. Stop waiting for summer. Stop waiting to live.
3. Stop surrounding yourself with people that don't lift you higher.
You might have heard the expression: You become like the 5 people you associate most with. Can you identify your five people? Write them down for me now. Are they lifting you up? Are they pushing you to achieve your dreams? Is your life enriched by their company? If not, you know where they can go. Toxic people not only bring you down emotionally, but after time, you end up mirroring their behaviour too. Is that the direction you want to go?
4. Stop complaining.
If you don't like it, change it.
Change the problem, change your attitude or change your perception of the situation. Change the way you see things and the ver things you see change. Whatever you have to do, change it.
5. Stop telling yourself that you’re not good enough.
“Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening”.
Tell yourself that you are not pretty enough, not smart enough, not wealthy enough, not worthy and you will manifest these things rather than working through them. There is so much power in positivity. And life really does want to love you.
What do you need to stop doing to lift yourself higher?